If we all had the same level of success in all that we did, there would be nothing to become excited about. No build-up, no climb, no nuance in experience.
Someone’s Tuesday 3 March would be the day they get their dream job or opportunity. For others, it may be the day they finally master how much pasta to make for one portion. For others, it may be a relatively dull and unmemorable day.
We are always comparing ourselves to others, at all chapters of life. Whether someone may be ‘more’ or ‘less’ successful than ourselves, we think that everyone around us has their s**t together.
I sit overlooking a café right now, people-watching. I see so many different lives ahead of me. One girl is sitting working on her dissertation; I recognised her, she’s been at this café before, a regular – like myself. I see another girl next to her, reading through an academic paper. Does that mean that ‘dissertation girl’ has more success – not necessarily! Although I wish her the best, bless her.
They’re both just on different paths.
That might seem silly and kind of obvious to think of ourselves this way, but how often do we catch ourselves judging our life, by comparing our lives to others’ highlights that we see on social media.
If you’re enjoying this story on online personas – try who are you when nobody is watching.
One person’s really productive day may be the day that you need to relax and find time for yourself and your hobbies. Being on the go and constantly working will get you so far before your body reaches burnout, and you’re forced to take a break because your body and mind are so tired.
Our journeys for success – in whatever element of our lives – shouldn’t be replicates of other people’s. That would be so boring!
To my right, I see a couple (or maybe they’re friends?) playing a card game. Behind them I see two ladies having a catchup over coffee. All of these people may be successful in their own right, but everyone deserves a coffee break.
Resting, taking time for yourself or your social life, does not mean you are lazy or unmotivated. We all need balance. What is the point in having a great career if you’re miserable because all other parts of your life have been neglected?
The idea of hustle-culture has emphasised the normalisation that you must be constantly on the go to be successful in your craft. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Go outside, laugh with a friend, read that book you’ve been putting off because you ‘don’t have the time’, or frolic in a field in the sun.
Life is so hectic, I know, but make sure you’re living and not just existing through each day. Your day and life is yours alone, go make it a fun one on your own terms!
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